6 tips for women going through a divorce

Statistics show that about 40-50% of married couples will file for divorce with the highest number (up to 80%) of those initiated by women.  While many sources argue about the exact percentage of marriages ending in divorce, the fact most are initiated by women suggests that women in particular need additional resources to cope with the decision to divorce and the aftermath.  Women’s Counseling for Divorce at Katy Counseling can be that support.

The decision to divorce is not one made quickly or lightly. 

When women file for divorce, the problems in the family have likely existed for years, getting worse and growing in toxicity long before a filing occurs.  Given that women are often very loyal and tend to work hard to solve problems before giving in, most will allow things to get to the point so much damage has occurred that very little if anything will repair the relationship.

Some of the issues leading to divorce include:

• lack of true connection and intimacy
• lack of appreciation, money problems
• differences in parenting, infidelity,
• substance use
• emotional/physical abuse
• breakdowns in communication

As a result, women carry wounds into their life long after the divorce is final.  Coping with divorce can be a difficult and emotionally challenging experience. 

Here are some tips that may help you if you are a woman going through a divorce:

Allow yourself to grieve:

Divorce is a significant loss, and it is essential to give yourself time to process your emotions. It is okay to feel sad, angry, or even relieved. Allow yourself to experience your emotions and permit yourself to grieve.  If needed, set aside specific days or times of days to grieve and other times to practice self-care.  There is no right or wrong way to grieve a divorce and it takes time.  Most experts agree it can take up to a year before a person has fully processed the grief from divorce and can take longer if divorce proceedings become contentious or one partner has a mental illness or addiction.

Seek support:

Talk to family and friends about what you are going through and consider joining a support group for divorced individuals. Divorce can feel isolating and you must reach out.  Be bold and ask for help if you need it.  Asking for help is a radical form of self-care that you need.   You may be surprised by how many people in your life are ready and willing to help with household issues, childcare, or budgeting.  If you feel overwhelmed or need professional support, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor at Katy Counseling.

Take care of yourself:

It is essential to take care of yourself during this time. Try to maintain a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. Engage in activities that bring you joy, such as reading, listening to music, or spending time outdoors.  It can help to set aside a specific day each week to do household chores and prepare for the week ahead and one day each week to simply take care of yourself whatever that looks like for you.

Practice self-compassion:

Be kind to yourself during this challenging time. Remember that healing takes time and that you are doing the best you can.  Spend some time exploring resources on self-compassion such as Kristen Neff’s Self-Compassion Project.

Focus on the present:

Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, focus on the present moment. It can be difficult not to worry about the future with finances, children, or future dating. When you catch yourself, gently bring yourself back to this day in time.  If needed, take one moment, an hour, or a day at a time.  Consider practicing mindfulness techniques such as meditation or yoga to help you stay grounded and centered.

Seek legal guidance:

If you are going through a divorce, it is essential to seek legal guidance from a qualified attorney. They can help you understand your rights and guide you through the legal process and issues surrounding the division of assets and child custody.

Are you a woman going through a divorce? Counseling for Divorce in Katy, TX can help!

Try not to compare yourself to other people. Everyone handles and copes with divorce differently.  If you find yourself stuck in the process and need professional support, Katy Counseling is here to help. Follow the steps below to start your journey to overcoming adversity.

• Learn more about our team here.
• Fill out our convenient online contact form for more information.
• Begin the journey to finding joy in life once again.

Other Mental Health Services Offered at Katy Counseling

In addition to offering services for Women’s Counseling for Divorce and Women’s Issues, we also offer a wide range of services for adults, teens, and children. These services include Play Therapy, Teen Counseling, Adult Counseling, Couples Counseling, Trauma Counseling, and Lens Neurofeedback. Our goal is to meet you where you are and help guide you through the issues you are facing in a positive and supportive way.